Only a full-orbed expression of Christ’s love in the Christian community will bring to realization the freedom, power, and beauty derived from the manifestation of the glory of God in His household (Ephesians 3:10). We should hold biblical complementarianism high with confidence. In addition, various changes in women’s education, the nature of housework, and the involvement of women in work outside the home have raised many new and difficult questions about the nature of men’s and women’s roles in both family and church. We are to be servants to one another, and no one of us is to lord it over the others (Mark 10:42-45). 23. But these distinctive emphases are complementary contributions to a unified body of divine teaching with a single divine Author. Mercy and forgiveness bind the family together (1 Timothy 1:12-17). They will be yours for food. Only temporary circumstances and difficulties within the body of Christ and within the surrounding society make genuinely Biblical practices seem less inevitable or even counterintuitive. The very title “overseer” used in 1 Timothy 3:1 indicates a position involving exercise of leadership. Paul himself functions as an example in subordination to Christ, who is the example par excellence (1 Corinthians 11:1). In such situations, it is understandable that some people may fail to see why appropriately qualified women may not exercise the key functions they associate with leadership. Family members must all treat one another with the respect and honor and sensitivity appropriate to their mutual status (5:1-6:2). As a woman, she is simply not so constituted. Though Ephesians 5 does not put it this way, it is nevertheless true that husbands ought to minister to the needs of their wives just as Christ serves the needs of the church, and wives ought to love their husbands as the church loves Christ. The responsibilities are not simply interchangeable, any more than the roles of Christ and the church are interchangeable. The church is quite likely to meet regularly in small groups in members’ homes, and the home atmosphere extends to the whole meeting. But the doubts and oppositions arise, as I see it, from temporary aberrations and weaknesses in the life of the church and the larger society, rather than from the force of truth. In the family, such love will never find itself able to dispense with the power generated by the Christological analogy of Ephesians 5:22-33 and the Old Testament discourses about God as husband to Israel (for example, Hosea 2; Ezekiel 16; Isaiah 54:5-6). From the fullness of His wisdom and His teaching gifts, He has distributed gifts to the church and thereby makes some people into subordinate or assistant teachers (Ephesians 4:7, 11). The church was mired in a host of sins, including sexual immorality, dissension, doctrinal error, charismatic confusion, and internal litigation, all of which were exasperated by a lack of biblical leadership. The roles of husband and wife are not reversible. Wives exercise authority over their children, but they also may have very extensive projects in which they exercise management not only over the physical domain of the household but also over transactions with the surrounding society (Proverbs 31:10-31; cf. The presence of Christ and the Holy Spirit in God’s household, as well as God’s own Fatherhood, demands the observance of household order. That is why the church must work to strengthen its men and seek to cultivate biblical manhood within the congregation. The family more than any other single institution in modern society desperately needs freedom and renewal through the love of Christ. The picture in Proverbs 31:10-31 illustrates several significant types of management: management of clothing, food, money, fields, charitable gifts, purchases, and sales. 1 Timothy 5:14). She has gifts of the Holy Spirit operating in her life. As they learn from God and from outside sources at school or play, they may sometimes communicate to their parents things the parents did not know. If the function is pastoral, calling a person “director” instead of “minister” does not alleviate the error. We have We are children of God, members of one divinely ruled family. Hence they lose some of their grip on the importance of family-like intimacy and support within the church. Such egalitarianism, when extended to the family and the church, refuses to acknowledge any differences between men and women. What critical question does Paul pose at the end of 1 Timothy 3:4-5? Describe the fundamental character quality overseers and elders must have? She is an exceptional âTitus 2â teacher of younger women. Describe areas in your church where women have achieved authority over men either as leaders or teachers. Wives exercise authority over their children, but they also may have very extensive projects in which they exercise management not only over the physical domain of the household but also over transactions with the surrounding society (Proverbs 31:10-31; cf. Thus, outside the assembly as well, the prayers in a mixed group Maintaining male leadership in the church is not a matter of indifference. Second, as preachers, we must be committed to preaching the text of Scripture—whatever it calls us to say—and preaching it with authority. In particular, they may all engage in various types of management of the subhuman creation. circumstances. III. Our love ought to be enlivened by the supreme example of Christ, empowered by the resurrection of Christ, embodied in the practice of following Christ. The analogy between family and church also helps to make clear what distinguishes the office of overseer from other roles in the church. Second, are there irreversible relations of leadership and submission within the church? We are to be servants to one another, and no one of us is to lord it over the others (Mark 10:42-45). Second, bold but humble communication of the truth by wives to their husbands need not undermine their husbands’ authority, any more than Paul intended to undermine general state authority by his criticisms of the actions of particular state authorities (see Acts 16:37; 22:25; 23:3-5; 25:10-11). Providing leadership for your wife is a fascinating challenge If, as I believe, these Biblical passages do provide a warrant for assigning specific leadership responsibility to husbands and fathers, we need also to recognize the same pattern within the church.